Anonymous: i had sex with my girlfriend for the first time and when i pulled out i saw that the condom was broken. i know for a fact i did not cum yet but we are both freaking out. what should we do?
Okay. This is really not the sort of question that we usually deal with, but considering the time-sensitive nature, rather than sending you elsewhere, I’m going to help you out.
If you didn’t ejaculate, the chance that your girlfriend could be pregnant is very, very slight. There is conflicting data on whether there is any sperm present at all in pre-ejaculate, however, the possibility still does exist, so you should still take appropriate precautions.
If it is within 72 hours, your girlfriend should take an emergency contraceptive as soon as possible. I know in the US it is available over the counter, although I can’t say anything about other countries. Regardless of whether it is in time for that or not, however, she needs to start keeping track, if she does not already, of her period. She should mark down when she had her last period, and if her next one is late, that will be the time should take a home pregnancy test, or go to Planned Parenthood for a more accurate blood test.
This is also a good time to make sure that both of you are STD-free. If either of you have had unprotected sex with other partners, there is the potential that something could have been passed on. If you and/or your girlfriend are under 18 and in the US, Planned Parenthood will do the test while protecting your confidentiality as much as is possible under the laws in your state.
Please tell your girlfriend from me that this is nothing to panic over. It is something that can absolutely be managed. She will be absolutely fine.